*Don’t die in silence
Nigerian women in recent times seems to be facing an increasing volume of domestic violence which is not abating but skyrocketing with no ending seemingly in sight.
A gender based Non-Governmental organisation, (NGO), FAME Foundation has called on the victims of domestic violence to speak out and get out before they die of physical and psychological wounds inflicted on them by their partners.
In a press statement signed by the founder of the organisation, Aderonke Bello, who doubles as a women and girls rights advocate called on both men and women to take caution.
“This is a clarion call to women and girls in Nigeria currently suffering and smiling in abusive relationships and marriages, to speak out, seek help and get out as soon as they can, to avoid ending up beaten to death by the person who claimed to love you. True love is non-violent.
“If you continue staying, thinking you want to change your abuser with prayers or enduring because of your children, please remember that, if you get killed, your child/children will lose dearest person in their lives and the man may likely move on to another victim as the world gradually forget about you. Speak up and run for your life, flee domestic violence as far as you can. If you stay back, even without the loss of your life, you can still turn to an emotional or mental wreck.
Under the same breath, the NGO also urges Nigerian men to stop battering the women, control their emotions and have mature talks instead of resulting to wife beating.
“To the men fond of beating their women, enough is enough, please end it. Sit your woman down and have an adult talk on way forward instead. Forgive, control your temper and stop battering the women,” she says.
“We also call on the government to do something fast, set up a commission that can look into the rights of women in Nigeria, most especially victims of domestic violence,” she concludes.
Domestic violence in Nigeria is a problem as in many parts of Africa. There is a deep cultural belief in Nigeria that it is socially acceptable to hit a woman to discipline a spouse. Domestic violence is widespread and shows no signs of lessening in Nigeria. The CLEEN Foundation reports 1 in every 3 respondents admitting to being a victim of domestic violence.
The survey also found a nationwide increase in domestic violence in the past 3 years from 21% in 2011 to 30% in 2013. A CLEEN Foundation’s 2012 National Crime and Safety Survey demonstrated that 31% of the national sample confessed to being victims of domestic violence